In this captivating chat, we explore how self-acceptance can integrate all the parts of you. Our guest Liberty Forrest, international-known Psychic and Medium shares how she turned her constant “self-sent-hate-mail” into “fan mail” by thanking her body, mind, and spirit for all the things they do so well. Learn more about Liberty at www.YourStoryOfHope.com Share this link with family and friends www.LifeInterruptedRadio.com/Acceptance
SHARON: There are so many places I want to go. First, you’d mentioned in the first episode which we called the “Art of Trusting Your Intuition and Yourself” sending your body hate mail. And I got a bunch of comments like, “Okay, I can raise my hand for that but how do we correct it? What’s the autocorrect part of that mail?”
LIBERTY: The first thing, of course, is to recognize that you’re doing it. When I had that moment of that definition or that description hitting me was when I was doing my self-healing project and it was just this powerful moment of understanding I had been spending decades yelling at my body ─ I was so angry with it and I hated it: why doesn’t this work and why didn’t that work ─ and really sending all these negative messages.
And it made me think, if I sent hate mail like that to my friends, how long would they be my friends? Hmmm, maybe there’s a reason why my body and I aren’t getting on very well.
And it was in that moment that I sort of realized how I needed to reconnect with it. I needed to respect it. It was trying to tell me something. The symptoms were trying to tell me something was wrong and that was the only way it could do it.
I needed to reconnect and I needed to apologize. That was the first step for me.
So that might be one place people want to begin. I felt like I owed my body a massive apology for all that negativity and all the things I was yelling at it for not doing right; and I forgot about all the things that it did and allowed me to do.
SHARON: I love that you gave yourself permission to cry. Too often, we hear this sort of “Buck up” or “Steel up” or whatever the words might be.
We had Prema McKeever not too long ago and she talked briefly in her presentation about the amazing healing power of breathwork and how powerful a good cry is. I had to think about the last time I had one of those really good cries.
LIBERTY: Gosh, that’s not a thing I do in part, at least, for me, because I have very firm spiritual beliefs about how things go in my life.
Does it mean I’m never sad?
No. I’ll well up usually in emotional moments like in a Hallmark film or advert or something but I just don’t because I have this philosophy that “Well, if it wasn’t meant to be…” or “There’s a reason for that.”
I don’t know when I last had a really good cry.
SHARON: I was thinking about that, too. Again, I remember the one I did have and it was so cleansing; it was so amazing.
Liberty is in the throes of finishing Edition 2 of The Power and Simplicity of Self-Healing, and there’s a part of that in the book where you talk about filling your body with joy after you had this really good cry and this apology.
I read that and I went, well, that sounds really cool. But, here again, I went, hmmm, I’m not really sure what that means. It sounded really cool.
LIBERTY: I remember the first time I did it, I remembered thinking I had been focusing so much on all the negatives in my life and all the abuse and the difficulties, and the challenges, blah, blah, blah; and I always said, “You know, there hasn’t been a lot of joy.”
And I wanted to smack myself upside the head and say, “Wait a minute, I’d only been focusing on that. Okay, there were all of those challenging things. But, gosh, I have a bunch of children and their celebrations and their milestones and the things that they did that were funny and lots of beautiful times with friends or family or holidays. And I thought, what the hell is the matter with me that I haven’t noticed all of those things? And I thought, I really need to be focusing on the joy.
I remember ─ I don’t think it was the first time but it was one of the first after I had that revelation ─ walking through the snow when I had that “aha.” I would be in a tub filled with water and meditation, candles, and nice kind of a restful place. And I remember just inhaling and just imagining I was inhaling joy and letting it fill every cell in my body sort of a visual on this beautiful white light that just was about joy.
First of all, I was focusing on some of those moments of joy like the ones I just mentioned. The real big gift was when I chose that day to remember a particularly challenging marriage and the negativity in it and I thought, this is a place where I really need some healing. I’m going to remember the joy in it because there was!
I thought about some of those joyful moments I could reconnect with and then I just filled myself up with that. I just imagined every single cell being filled with it. And I imagined a beautiful light sort of swirling around my body up and down.
So I was immersed in it in all ways. I can’t even tell you how wonderful that felt and it really took away a lot of the ongoing kind of almost subconscious sting of that marriage that was so abusive and toxic and terrible because there’s always good somewhere.
It gave me some balance. That was the first big shift I had about that. It allowed me to have more joy in my life and to let go without realizing that there had been a bit of a need to hold on to those difficult bits without even being aware that it had kind of become part of my identity because it was built into my work; it was built into what I talked about when I’m helping people and that sort of thing.
I didn’t want to talk about it anymore. I didn’t want to think about it. It was just like, okay, that’s done. I don’t need to be in that place anymore. I want to talk about moving forward. I want to talk about what’s positive, what’s good. Where do you want to go and what do you want to create for your life?
It changed everything.
SHARON: Thank you for joining us in another great Q&A. Everyone, have a great week whatever your adventures. Join me next week for another amazing episode of Q&A. And listen to the complete interview at http://www.LifeInterruptedRadio.com/Acceptance/